August 25th might not be the national day to celebrate your favourite sweet treat, but it’s certainly an important day. National Kiss and Make Up Day is all about putting aside your differences and resolving any conflicts with your family, friends or colleagues. Well, you don’t have to kiss your colleagues!

According to the Mayo Clinic, holding onto grudges can be toxic to your health, not to mention your relationships. Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace of mind. Forgiveness can lead to:

It’s not always easy to forgive someone, especially if you’ve been hurt and the person who’s hurt you doesn’t admit wrong. It’s key to remember that it’s not just about them, it’s also about your state of mind and how that could be negatively affecting your physical and mental health. That doesn’t mean just bottle it up and move on—these emotions need to be acknowledged to be processed.

If you are struggling to forgive someone, try practicing empathy and seeing the situation from the other person’s point of view. Consider if you would have reacted similarly if you faced the same situation. Reflect on times you’ve hurt others and been forgiven. Consider writing down your feelings in a journal, doing a guided meditation or speaking to a counsellor, spiritual leader or an impartial friend or family member.